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Guys do a lot of weird things that leave us scratching our heads and going, âHuh?â Especially when we are not sure where we stand with them. Are we friends? Are we more than that? What on Earth is going on between the two of us? Surely, you know exactly how confusing that can be. Even more so when he is doing things that borders on romantic, but seems friendly all at the same time. Then again most of us arenât really sure where the line is drawn that separates those two. We definitely find ourselves questioning their motives when they do this type of stuff to us. âWhat did it mean when he winked at me last night?â âDid he hold my hand because he was scared or because he likes me?â âWhat could it mean now that he has picked me up while hugging me?â All good questions, because these things could be heat of the moment friendly things, but they could also signify so much more! Obviously you are here reading this right now because you want to know what it means when a guy picks you up while the two of you are hugging one another. Donât feel silly for asking, because it can be difficult to tell what is going on when someone does that. But what is important is to think carefully about when and how. These are the two things that are going to lead you to the whole why of the situation that will bring total clarity to his actions. We hate to break this to you, but there could actually be a few different reasons why a guy picks you up off of the ground while the two of you are hugging. Frustrating, right? Wrong. It is actually really, very easy to distinguish which one it would be. All you have to do is, as we said previously, think of when and how! What was going on when he did this to you? What were you doing prior? What was he doing as well? Where were you? What was going on around both of you? These are important questions to ask when you are trying to get to the bottom of the meaning of this type of hug. The SituationWhat is going on at the time of this kind of hug is of the utmost importance to think about. It is what is going to tell you why he is doing what he is doing. Here are some different situations that he might give you this kind of hug in and what it means if he does. You were in danger/unsafe: Although this is not an everyday situation, it definitely does happen. You may have been in an unsafe place. This often happens when someone goes to war or has been kidnapped. Yes, we know they are extreme, but things like this happen on a daily basis. So if you were in an extreme, unsafe or dangerous situation like this and you are finally reunited with him, he might lift you up and twirl you around to express how grateful he is that you are safe. You may also have just been on a long journey that presented risks and he might do this as well. Does it mean he has romantic feelings for you? Not necessarily. The answer to that all depends on the relationship that the two of you already share. Are you very close with each other? If so, he might just be hugging you to show that he cares. However, if you have shared some romantic moments in the past it could mean he is harboring some deeper feelings for you. You were gone for a long time: When you havenât seen someone that you care about in a long period of time you might get a little crazy when you see them again. Were you on a trip for an extended length of time and just returned? Was he there to greet you when you came back and gave you one of these types of hugs? He might have romantic intentions if that is the case. Why would we say that? Because friends tend to give each other long hugs, but they donât tend to lift each other off the ground after returning from a trip. If he does hug you like this it means that he missed you in a great way. Greater than a normal friend would. Also consider how long the hug went on for. Was it over a minute? He might be excited to be having physical contact with you once again. This is definitely more romantic than not. He works out a lot: Yes, some guys will do this type of hug just because they simply want to show off how muscular they are. How can you tell this is the reason that he is doing it? Well, he will give you this hug out of nowhere for no specific reason. It will be a short hug and there will be no twirling involved. He might laugh and set you down immediately. You may also see him flex or mention something about how he has been working out lately. Does this mean he is romantic towards you? Not at all. He is just trying to show off. You won something: And lastly, a guy might give you this type of hug because you have been successful in something. You might have made a deadline or won a prize. You could have even won a fight of some sort. This then would be a victory hug. He might twirl you around. This doesnât always mean he likes you as more than a friend. It could mean he is just super happy for you and is being a supportive friend. Again, to answer that you will have to evaluate your bond. Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing. Photo by Steven Wilcox on Unsplash The following body language guide looks into how men communicate to women that they like them. These cues could be intentional or a subconscious tick. The more cues you're getting, the more likely he has a crush on you. Interpreting Physical Cues
Other ways he displays affection
Photo by Jonathan Borba on Unsplash HairHair is a special part of a woman. Depending on the type of hair you have, it could be one of the most attractive parts of you, or nothing special. Men adore hair, especially long locks. Itâs something a lot of them donât have, and they know itâs personal. Itâs also a more friendly place to touch. What it means if he touches it:
FaceTouches on the face of any kind indicate that a guy is interested in getting to know you more. Otherwise, they wouldn't dare invade your space like that. Here are some things to remember about different kinds of face touches:
LipsThis is a self-explanatory area. He is trying to initiate something if he touches your lips. Even if you have just a bit of mustard and he's trying to get it off your faceâhe wouldn't do it if he wasn't into you. And kissing.
The head is (obviously) an important part of the body! There are a few reasons men might touch you here.
NeckThe neck is a vulnerable spot full of nerves. We don't ordinarily place our hands right on someone's neck. Consider whether he's giving you a massage, a quick poke, a swipe, or a caress. One way or another, he's trying to get your attention.
ShoulderA gentle shoulder rub can go a long way. The shoulders are a more polite area than your lower back.
ArmsYou get different vibes when someone's hand is on your arm as opposed to your hand. Putting your hand on someone's arm is all about sending a message rather than starting a back-and-forth dialogue. Try thinking about the touch when it happens and review how it feels later. Did the touch feel genuine, tender, and comfortingâor did it feel calculated, too strong, or awkward? If you slow down and think about how the touches feel to you, you'll start to understand them more in their unique, personal ways.
HandsI mean, the easiest way to touch a person is with the hands. It'll probably start with a handshake, high five, or fist bump. It's the easiest way to break the touch barrier. It's not the most sensitive part of your body, and you can communicate a lot with a squeeze, hold, or bump. If you ever get a strong tingling sensation in your hand, which is rare, then you both definitely have a strong connection for each other, whether romantic or not.
BackYour back can go a number of ways. It's like a canvas where he can write any kind of message he wants.
Stomach, Waist, or Hips (the Midsection)The midsection is an intriguing area for guys because it is very different from theirâsâââsoft, curvy, and smooth. There are a few different meanings behind why a guy might touch you here:
LegsConsider your legs like your arms, as a playful area.
A Special CaseThere is one cuddle move that shows a lot of intimacy, and it has to do with legs: the Lover's Knot. You may, when cuddling, find yourself face-to-face with your legs intertwined. This cuddle move is used at the beginning of a relationship when you are in a honeymoon state. Obviously, this full-body cuddle can indicate a lot. You can go whatever direction you want to from there. FeetFeet are interesting. On the one hand, their movements can happen subconsciously (how often do you make sure that your feet are pointed in any particular direction?). On the other hand, if someone is using their feet on purpose, or touching your feet, well, that means something.
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Picks You Up
Hugs YouA whole lot can be communicated with a hug. Itâs one of the easiest ways to read someoneâs emotions.
Some other key points of interest here:
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash Our heads are one of the most vulnerable parts of our body. Most people donât just plant their head on somebody, so itâs an intimate touch.
Interlock Fingers While Holding HandsHolding hands is a sign of affection. Couples do it all the time, but the first time you hold hands with a new person, it can be thrilling. Your brain might be racing, "OMG we're holding hands!! What does it mean!?" Interlocking fingers is an especially kindred way to hold hands. It can signal a desire for increased closeness, or it could be an expression of how he already feels about you. Touch You All the TimeThis man is either just super fidgety (which is totally possible, especially if he generally moves around a lot), or heâs acting out on himself the things that he secretly wants to do to YOU! Touching any of these areas are subconscious signs of attraction. Talking with someone that you like can create a lot of energy and that energy needs to go somewhere. If heâs not yet comfortable with touching you, he might put the nervous energy into fidgeting with his face, neck, or hairâââall of which could draw your eye to features that you might find attractive. Touch His Face, Hair, or Neck While He's Talking to YouThis man is either just super fidgety (which is totally possible, especially if he generally moves around a lot), or he's acting out on himself the things that he secretly wants to be doing to YOU! Touching any of these areas are subconscious signals of attraction. Talking with someone that you like can create a lot of energy, and that energy needs to go somewhere. If he's not yet comfortable with touching you, he might put the nervous energy into fidgeting with his face, neck, or hair â all of which could draw your eye to features that you might find attractive. Touch You With His FeetIf he's touching you with his feet, this man is flirting with you! Alert the flirt police, because we have an offender. If you like it, feel free to flirt back with a little footsie of your own. If not, you can acknowledge what's happening and tell him to cut it out. Good Luck!I hope this was helpful for you! Best of luck to you and your crushâflirting can be confusing but a lot of fun. © 2015 Andrea Lawrence |