Why do I love my cat so much it hurts

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If you're like me, you adore cats. Why do we find these creatures so irresistible?

Perhaps like me, you’ve owned a cat — or more likely, been owned by one. You know the joy that cats can bring, even when they’re being obnoxious. What is it about cats that captures our hearts and enslaves us through their charm?

What follows can also be applied to dogs.

These beautiful creatures have a rare quality that humans would do well to cultivate: a large capacity to receive affection. When a lovely cat saunters our way, it’s not easy to resist the impulse to stroke him or her, even when it’s not so wise. On a recent trip to Thailand, I spotted an irresistible cat in a café. I foolishly felt safe to approach her with an offer of affection. When she rolled on her back, I took this to mean that my advances were welcomed. But shockingly, she abruptly changed her mind and scratched me before I had time to withdraw. Perhaps this cat had an ambivalent attachment style.

As blood was flowing from my hand, the café owner offered a belated warning: “I meant to tell you she’s a feral cat and it’s best to keep your distance.” I replied, “Well, thanks for the warning, but she seemed so irresistible.” Next time, I’ll maintain better boundaries, but the incident made me wonder why some of us (or is it just me?) will expose ourselves to danger for the potential gratification of petting a darned cat?

Feeling Received

One reason we may love to stroke these adorable creatures is because the rhythmic action of stroking their velvety fur feels good. It focuses our attention, as happens in meditation. But I’m convinced there’s more to it than that.

I believe that a major reason we love cats is because of an uncanny ability that few humans possess: they register our tactile presence in a deeply felt way. They really know how to let us in! They’re right there in the delectable moment receiving our touch.

Delighting in our physical presence, they may begin to purr and perhaps roll on their backs, exposing their vulnerability. As if to say, “I trust you. Give me some love and make me feel good.” Their gift to us is that they receive us deeply, without any troubling cognitions or disturbing memories of less savory moments, such as when we forgot to feed them or clean their litter box. They let all of that go. They’re just here with us right now.

Perhaps you’re blessed to have a partner who receives you in a deep way. What a gift to sense that your partner is really letting you in. But sadly, most of us have blocks to receiving deeply and freely. Perhaps past conflicts or traumas have muddied the waters. Or, we’ve been taught that giving is nobler than receiving and we believe that we’re selfish if we receive uninhibitedly.

Cats teach us that this ain't so. Most likely, we don’t judge cats as being selfish; we relish how openly they let us in. Or, perhaps we think they're selfish, but we don't mind. Humans could use more healthy narcissism in regard to receiving people more deeply.

Research has shown that cats can be very healing for us. A 10-year research study suggests that cat owners were less likely to die of heart attacks than people who have never owned one. The latter group was 40 percent more likely to die from heart attacks and 30 percent more likely to die from cardiovascular disease. Other studies confirm that cats can lower our blood pressure and release dopamine and serotonin, which reduce stress and improve immune functioning.

Cats can also help release oxytocin, which is associated with the feeling of being in love. As we know, love heals, and perhaps an important aspect of this healing is the bonding created by their ability to receive us deeply. I have fond memories of my now deceased cat slowly sauntering toward me and lying on my chest, purring. It’s a precious feeling that puts us into a relaxed state.

As expressed by Paul Zak, author of The Moral Molecule, this love bond may explain why “people spend thousands of dollars to treat a pet medically rather than euthanize it and simply get a new animal.”

If you’re fortunate to have an affectionate cat in your life, notice how he or she receives your affection. How do you feel inside when you’re being deeply received? Similarly, when someone who you like gives a hug or offers affection, experiment with letting it in. Be a cat. Get out of your head, take a deep, easy breath, and be mindfully present with how it feels in your body to receive a hug and affection from a loved one. Whether from a cat or human, letting in love just might heal you.

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Loving Your Cat So Much It Hurts? – Here’s Why

Well, it just shows how much love and affection you have for your cat

It’s a good thing to have this feeling because you’re going to be the best cat parent ever

Your cat is in good hands because he/she has a owner who love him/her unconditionally

Cats are too cute and they become our companion which makes us love them so much that it hurts!

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Is It Normal To Love My Cat So Much

Of course it’s normal

I would be worried if you didn’t love your cat

They’re so darn cute!

Related article – Why are cats so cute?

Even when they misbehave

Those beady eyes looking at you

Or when they purr and meow at the same time – hits the heart!

We got no choice but to love them

Okay there are more reasons

You’ll be surprised to know your cat lowers your stress level

So if you ever feel stressed then stroke your cat and this will help you calm down

A 10 year study of more than 4,000 Americans by researchers at the University of Minnesota’s Stroke Institute in Minneapolis showed that cat owners showed a 30 percent lower risk of death from a heart attack compared to non cat owners (source) –

Pretty amazing right?

How cats can help us through hard times

They don’t just only help us and calm us down when we’re stressed

There’s more to that

Here’s some other awesome benefits of being a cat parent

Better for the environment
Help you cope if you lose a loved
Help you find a partner!
Cat owners are more smarter
Healthier heart
Fulfill your need of companionship
They can tell you a lot about your personality (cat parents are more modest)
You’ll sleep better
Fewer allergies

I feel proud to be a cat parent

Just look at all the benefits we receive simply by having a cat in the house

Let’s be honest

We’re not cat owners

We are owned by them! Lol

When you look at all the benefits of being a cat parent

It makes sense why we cat parents love our furbabies so much

We might not have known this prior to reading this article

But when you do think about it

Cats do bring us comfort

Honestly, I would tell my cat everything

All my problems and it would help me

I’m sure you must have felt the same way too

Your cat must have helped you get through hard times

Let me know in the comments below how your kitty has been there for you

How You Can Love Your Cat Back

Cats do so much for us

They love us unconditionally

And just to reap all the benefits of being a cat parent

It’s important we give back

I’m not talking about buying your cat toys

Or spending time with your cat

I’m talking about being there for our cats

Emotionally and mentally

Taking the time out to understand our cats

What they are trying to tell us

Reading their body language

Talking to your cat in a way they understand

Did you know cats understand what we say to them

You can actually have a conversation with your cat like how you would with a child!

You should check out my article – Do cats understand words (you’ll be surprised at how much they understand!)

Want To Learn How You Can Become a Better Cat Parent?

If you want to truly repay your cat and everything they continue to do for you

Then I would recommend taking time out to study and learn about how you can talk to your cat

You see it’s easy to play with our kitty

And buy them high quality food

But what about connection

Connection is beautiful thing

If you haven’t connected with your cat by talking to him/her than now is your chance to do so

How?

By checking out this guide that will teach you how to do this

It’s called “Cat Language Bible””

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This guide will help you understand your cat in a way you’d never thought would be possible

Imagine having an actual conversation with your cat!

Or just being able to emotionally connect with your furbaby

That will increase your bond with your cat to a new level

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